When Your Husband Doesn’t Listen
The blank stare is usually not what it looks like. A marriage therapist on what your husband’s silence and quick fixes are really covering, and what actually helps you be heard.
Marriage
How to Fight Fair: Conflict Resolution Skills Every Married Couple Needs
You know that silence after a fight — the one where you’re both in the same house but somehow miles apart? Maybe someone stomped off to another room, or the conversation just stopped. Nobody won. Nobody feels good. And the thing you were actually arguing about is still an elephant in the room, unresolved. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. The truth is, EVERY couple fights. No one wants to fight, but it happens. Here’s the more important question: Are those fights bringing you closer or slowly pulling you apart?
Protecting Your Mental Health During Back-to-Back Holiday Gatherings
For many people, the holidays are portrayed as a season of joy, connection, and celebration. In reality, they can also be one of the most emotionally taxing times of the year, especially when your calendar is filled with back-to-back family gatherings, social obligations, and expectations. While spending time with loved ones can be meaningful, too much togetherness, too little rest, and unresolved family dynamics can quickly take a toll on your mental health.
Gaslighting: What It Is and How to Respond in a Healthy Way
The word “gaslight” is everywhere right now. You see it in movies, on social media, and in coffee shop conversations with friends. Clients often tell me, “My spouse is gaslighting me,” or “My mother-in-law keeps gaslighting me,” but when we slow down and unpack what’s really happening, it’s not always a case of gaslighting. Sometimes … Read more
3 Ways to Infuse Faith Practices Into Your Relationship
Does it seem like you and your spouse or partner never connect on your beliefs about God or on a spiritual level? Maybe you never talk about your faith. Yet, it’s important to you, and that’s something you have been asking for. There are reasons why couples struggle to practice their faith and spirituality together. … Read more
What Are Boundaries? A Practical Guide to Emotional Safety and Relationship Health
In the mental health profession, we often talk about setting boundaries—whether in our interpersonal relationships, in how we relate to ourselves, or in the expectations we hold. But before we can set boundaries, we have to understand what they are and why they matter.
5 Practical Actions to Take When Your Marriage Feels “Blah”
Life can get busy. After marriage, many things can happen. Unexpected things! Sometimes it’s self-inflicted. Other times life just throws us curve balls. It shouldn’t really be a surprise when a marriage gets stale or stuck. However, as counselors, we have so many couples come to us because of this problem. It makes us wonder why many more aren’t coming because, from my experience and understanding, lots of couples struggle with a lack of intimacy, affection, or the dreaded roommate paralysis.
New Year, New Goals: Building on Your Journey Together
In our previous post, “New Year, New Hope: Goal Setting for a Stronger Marriage,” we discussed how setting goals as a couple can breathe new life into your relationship. Now, we’re diving even deeper with additional tips and strategies to help you maintain momentum and create lasting change throughout the year. Let’s explore three more ways to strengthen your bond and keep the spirit of renewal alive in your partnership.
How to Handle Family Drama: 3 Essential Holiday Survival Tips
The holidays are often painted as the most wonderful time of the year, filled with joy, laughter, and togetherness. But let’s be honest: they can also bring stress, tension, and uncomfortable moments—especially when navigating family dynamics.
Love Is: 5 Tips to truly show love in relationships
It is not uncommon for me to remind clients during sessions that love is more than an emotion we feel, but also a choice we make daily and an action. Love is an emotion we feel powered by connection. Love is a choice we make each morning when we wake up, and actively throughout the day. Love is the way we show affection to our partner. Love is such a deep concept. I was reading, A Roadmap for Couple Therapy, in some of my downtime, and in chapter 3 the quote above really stuck out to me. Let’s break this down and explore it together, shall we?
