Inspired by This Year for Christmas by Phil Wickham
As you get together with your family this year, it’s important to focus on what matters most! Over the past few years, our family has not been able to follow the traditions we have had because of illness, loss, and other factors. It seems like every year has been different. However, despite the changes and the passing seasons, we can find joy in this season. As my family has been listening to Christmas music, I’ve found Phil Wickham’s song so pertinent. Go take a listen, then come back and print off this devotion to read and reflect on as a couple or with the whole family.
Merry Christmas from my family and all of us at Legacy Marriage Resources, LLC.
When Christmas Feels Full, But Something Still Feels Missing
For many couples, Christmas brings mixed emotions. There may be joy, traditions, and meaningful moments—but also stress, unmet expectations, family pressure, or unresolved tension. The season that promises peace can sometimes expose how tired or disconnected we feel.
This devotional is an invitation to pause. Before focusing on gifts, schedules, or even fixing problems, it invites couples to reflect on a deeper question:
What are we truly longing for this Christmas?
What We Often Hope Christmas Will Bring
The song This Year for Christmas points our attention away from what we usually chase during the holidays. It centers on a simple but challenging truth: real peace is not found in circumstances changing, but in Christ being present.
Instead of “all I want is things to be easier,” the message becomes:
- All I want is clarity
- All I want is peace
- All I want is You, Jesus
For couples, this reframes Christmas from a performance to a posture. It is less about getting everything right and more about returning to what grounds us.
Centering Christmas on Christ—Together
When couples are overwhelmed, they often turn toward control, withdrawal, or criticism. Christmas can amplify this dynamic. But centering the season on Christ invites a different response.
A Christ-centered Christmas allows space for:
- Grace instead of pressure
- Presence instead of perfection
- Connection instead of comparison
This does not mean problems disappear. It means you are not carrying them alone.
A Simple Reflection for Couples
Take a few minutes to reflect together. There is no need to rush these questions.
- What are we hoping Christmas will fix or change for us?
- Where have expectations created pressure or disappointment?
- What would it look like to invite Christ into our stress, not just our celebration?
- How can we be more present with each other this season?
A Prayer to End the Season Well
Jesus, this year for Christmas, we want You.
Not just in tradition, but in our relationship.
Meet us in our stress, our hope, and our longing.
Help us slow down, stay connected, and remember what truly matters.
Amen.
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